Failure

I've once heard: it is only by facing failure that one starts thinking. It is not possible to think, truly reflect, while he is only a winner. Good enough. Following this thought, we should conclude that without failure one will never be able to know himself. Hence, "failure" is "good". Moreover, "thou shalt fail" becomes the corolary. As you can see, we are trapped. If one resists failure he is obviously assuming a self-denial position. Worst, we claim a winning (imperialist, victory-driven, etc.) position. The trap's knot is actualy twofolded. First, we comply with the loser-winner dichotomy. As winning is that graceful force that leads forward, failure is that situation that pushes us back to an observing position. What is really concealed here is the insider and outsider dichotomy, being the later the award for losing the battle. Once this later move is blocked, the winning/losing dichotomy loses its grounds and receives a renewed tension. This tension reverts to the second knot in our original trap. What is to think, to reflect on one's position? Is it necessary to be outside one's position?